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Fortunately say "stop" can not be ...

In the middle of the last century, a Canadian scientist JamesOlds had a curious experiment. Laboratory rats in the area of ​​the brain responsible for wakefulness, were implanted tiny electrodes. Scientists are trying to determine whether the rat will avoid the place in which they have been exposed to the current. As expected, the experimental animals very quickly ceased to want to go into the corner of the cage, where they waited each time an unpleasant "surprise". Only one rat for some reason stubbornly returned to a "cursed" location, time and time again to give discharge current.

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Perhaps the first James Olds thought thatamong rats found masochists. However, the subsequent autopsy of the brain of this animal showed that the electrode was implanted with a certain deviation and thus annoyed another zone - the so-called pleasure center. So, if you work on this area of ​​the brain, it can cause a rat to do anything?

Subsequent experience has confirmed the hypothesis of the scientist. An electrode implanted in this area of ​​the brain, the rat was doomed to "pleasant" death. Having uncontrolled access to a conductive lever, the rat pressed on him like crazy - up to 1000 times per hour (! Almost every 3.5 seconds), forgetting about food and sleep, not paying any attention to the young, nor sexual partners. After several days of continuous "high" rat died of exhaustion.
The question arises: and whether there is in the human brain, this "happiness" button, clicking on which you can pessimist or any poor devil make a happy man? It turns out there is. It is located in the area of ​​the corpus callosum, where lies the "bridge" between the two hemispheres. And with electrical stimulation of this section a person has a sense of unearthly bliss ...

It's all about hormones?
It would seem that there is finally a realthe ability to bring happiness to all mankind. But let's think: what if a person, as a rat, there is no force to stop in time and not to drown in the continuous stream of pleasure?

During the study of the human 'Centerpleasure ", new interesting results were obtained. It turned out, for example, that this area of ​​the brain is full dopamine - a hormone, giving a person a feeling of euphoria and happiness. Along with other hormones responsible for the mood (oxytocin, tyrosine, norepinephrine, melatonin, and others), the amount of dopamine in the "pleasure center" determines how happy we feel. And if it is not enough by any means a person tends to increase it.

Ways lot. Power; love; sex; tasty food; someone's attention; acceptance (approval) of our merits, talents or behavior; prayer; winning the game, the competition or lottery; sport; creation; leisure or travel; favorite hobby; laugh; dancing; singing; money; property; alcohol; drugs; Skydiving; Fast driving a car ... In a word - any idea, any event or behavior, causing a hormonal surge. And everyone chooses the method of obtaining the missing portions of his dopamine.

It turns out that a person is not necessarily drillhole in the brain and to implant a chip in it, to feel happy? Indeed, there is much more safe and long-proven options to achieve happiness. But how reliable are they?

Money - it Sixteenth ...
One of the most common myths is: for happiness need the money. Or, as a joke once a French millionaire Paul Getty, "happiness is not in money but in their number." In fact, it is not so simple.

According to statistics, the Chamber of psychiatricUS and British hospitals more than half (about 60%) is filled with very rich people (and only 30% - the poorest). fashion stars, movies and music do not get out of depression, eating regularly strong anti-depressants, alcohol or drugs. Businessmen, who made huge capital, die prematurely from cancer and other diseases caused by excess stress and fear.

A few years ago, "German Societyrational psychology "conducted a survey of about 3,000 Germans under the age of 65 years to find out what makes them happy. It turned out that the most important most important source of happiness for the Germans are: loving, gentle partner; a happy family; healthy, happy children; success at work; completed work; health; favorite hobbies. Money in this list took only a sixteenth place.

A larger studyAmerican scientists, confirmed the results of our German colleagues: wealth is not a fundamental condition for happiness. And even answers one hundred richest people in America practically coincided with the characteristics of happiness average Americans.

"Want to be happy one day? Do not go to work "
Maybe we should not rush in pursuit of big money, but for something more important and meaningful? For example, for some beautiful dream or ideal? Alas, these "Firebird" - being Nenad
ezhnye. In one parable he tells how a man decided to marry the perfect woman, and to find it, go wander the world. He returned home in forty years - alone, without his wife. Someone asked him, "Well, you've met the perfect woman?" - "Yes, - sighed the man, - I met her ..." - "So why did you come back alone, and not with her?" - "Because she was looking for the perfect man ... ".

Maybe we should be easier to use and"Henchmen" means happiness, those that are recommended by psychologists: socializing with friends, children, nature and animals, singing, dancing, massage, sex, laughter, exercise, hobbies, travel ... I guess this is a very good means to make our life if not happy, it is quite bearable. However, there is no strength. No matter how often communicate with friends, they are not always in front of us. No matter how much traveling - by itself can not escape. No matter how much, taste the most delicious dishes as either laugh or have sex - all this time of joy. One can not all day and all his life and deal with this. And these sources - not within us and outside, which means that our happiness will always depend on external circumstances. "He is unhappy, - he claimed Schopenhauer - who are looking for adventure, but does not see the house of happiness, whose center of gravity lies in the other, and not in himself."

Georgian proverb teaches: "Want to be happy one day? Do not go to work. You want to be happy for three days? Establishments mistress. You want to be happy in ten years? Get married. You want to be happy all my life? Be healthy! "Maybe happiness bestows health? Health, of course, important. But as the water alone but not be satisfied, and one health will not be happy. Health, like the air when it is, it does not notice, because you do not appreciate.

So what is happiness?

The best cure for poverty
If you dig good literature on the topic of happiness, you can find three really strong conditions of happiness. The first of them - is the work, purposeful and creative work.

"The mystery of our misfortunes is - Bernard wroteShaw - we have too much leisure to think about what we are happy or not. " "Find something for everyone - advised Maxim Gorky - and one miserable on earth will be less." The French philosopher Voltaire stated: "Work - the best cure for poverty, corruption, and bad mood."

Favorite thing ceases to be a difficult and becomes creative and even - the meaning of life. Brilliantly he expressed this thought of Nietzsche, saying: "He who knows why to live can bear any how."

During the Second World War, the AustrianPsychiatrist Viktor Frankl was in a concentration camp (Auschwitz). By this time his manuscript devoted to the search for the meaning of life, was not finished yet. Only a passionate desire to finish the book gave him the strength to endure the horrors of camp life. Even when he fell ill with typhus, but the need for continuous recording on sheets of his notes helped him defeat this disease.

Modern psychologists have come to the conclusion that wemost happy when striving for this goal. That state of desire, or, more simply, everyday work, bringing us closer to the goal - and not the successful completion of the work started! - Give us the greatest joy of psychological compensation. But the main factor hindering Fortunately, scientists call idleness. At the same time, as it turned out, it does not matter what it is called - laziness, disease, poverty, or, on the contrary, the financial well-being.